People have far more in common than we might believe. We all have the same basic physical and emotional needs. Deep down we all have the same needs for security, love and meaning. We are fundamentally social animals. Indeed parts of our brains called ‘mirror neurons’ only fire when in connection with others. Human beings naturally live in families and seek wider community groupings through friends and other social networks. This need for connection to other people is so important that the lack of it is a primary cause of mental illness.